It seems that lately I have been getting a lot of couples coming through to me with various problems relating to boredom in the bedroom.  Sometimes the first contact is instigated by the woman and other times by the man.  It all depends on who is more focused on confronting the issue.  One partner is usually more likely to bury his/her head in the sand and think that if they don’t talk about it the problem will disappear.

One doesn’t have to be long in the tooth to experience problems in the bedroom. It can happen to anyone at any time. I am of the opinion that” if you do not use it, you will lose it!”.  To date my youngest Sacred Sensual client has been 19 and my oldest 92.  Men and women. They all share a common thread in that they all need and crave Touch, not just any kind of Touch, they need Sensual Healing Touch, loving connected touch.




I have had men in their late 20’s complain that their partners are too oversexed, want sex too frequently and they (the men) are stressed and can’t perform.  I have had young married men, complain that their partner is not interested in foreplay or orgasm.  I have had women complain that their partner’s cannot “get them off” without the use of a vibrator... penetration just doesn’t do it, they also complain that he is just too quick to get a leg over  and then roll over and go to sleep. Just today I received an email from a young woman asking for help.  Her partner was not interested in any couples massages or even letting her come for a sensual session.  Is this love I ask?

If you are reading this, you have most likely found me by fate or referral. Choosing a therapist to work with can sometimes be very hard and scary, we get to know a lot of intimate details about you, but you don’t usually get to know about us.  So, I thought that I would put together just a broad outline of who I am, so that you can decide for yourself whether “I am for you”.

My name is Pauline, at the time of writing this it is the Year of the Snake in 2013.  I am a 42 year old passionate mother of two. My son is 20 years old and my daughter is 16.  I am currently divorced but in a long term relationship with an amazing man. I met my children’s father when I was at the very young age of 17, he was 40. ( I think that this is very important information, because it was being married to a man 23years my senior that led me onto the path of sensual healing.)  I only see that now myself, some 25 years later.

FOREPLAY - “What’s that?”

My first experience of foreplay with my husband to be was with the lights off, and him pushing his finger on my clitoris and asking me “are you ready?” HELL!! Ready for what?, what exactly would a 17year old girl know about being ready?  I still get annoyed with this memory even today mainly because he should have known better, he was older, a man of the world, surely he could have taken his time, shown me more pleasure...