You don't know me, so please do not judge

Today I arrived back home from a blissful three day Sacred gathering Retreat with fellow practitioner’s working in the field of Conscious Sexuality.  Feeling at peace, connected to Mother Earth and buzzing with anticipation and also feeling a sense of belonging ,as well as a deep inner knowing that I am finally on the right path.  (those are great emotions to feel, absolutely awesome yeah?)


So as you can imagine, when I found an envelope addressed to me with a letter inside, type written, no signature or any forwarding address, you can only imagine how I felt reading the following words....





“You are nothing more than a prostitute in disguise. You take cash for services of men orgasming in front of you or whatever privilege you feel like giving them.  What a con.  You make a living in the sex industry under some earth mother image. You are playing a dangerous game with men who have actual problems, and have wives, girlfriends, and families.  If you touch them, help them come, let them touch you, and you touch them, then you are a whore, Nothing less “

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Yes, I can hear you say all or some of the following.

• Don’t let this affect you
• You know what you offer is special and sacred
• You know you aren’t a Sex worker
• It’s their shit, not yours
• It’s something that they have to work on
• and also only you can allow yourself to feel shit, so ignore this ignoramus person whoever he or she is and let it go
  

Well I am angry and I am hurt, firstly I believe that if someone has an issue with anyone, they should confront the person face to face not be a coward and go about it in this way.

So to the Anonymous person that sent me their little letter of complaint.  I say this.

First of all please do not attack the Earth Mother image that I lovingly chose to create as my logo, you are obviously oblivious to the connection between, life force energy and sexual energy and earth mother energy....we are all life force energy and we are all connected. (I can feel another blog coming, thanks for the inspiration on that one too, wow it’s amazing what happens when someone pushes a button hey?)

Secondly not everyone comes to me for an orgasm, and not all of my clients are guys, there are some amazing sensual women that come see me too.

Thirdly, I am sorry that your partner/husband felt the urge to come see me for Healing Touch and didn’t ask for it from you instead.  Maybe he was just too tired of dropping hints or asking for Touch and kept on getting the Frosty cold shoulder...

Fourthly, I am sorry that you think that I am a Sex Worker, if you actually knew me, you would know this not to be the case at all.  In fact my clients know that I do not partake in fluid exchange of any kind, be it Oral, Kissing or Intercourse.  EVER! - this just will NEVER happen, and yet they keep coming (pardon the pun)

The reason for this is because I am in love with myself, my own partner and my belief systems and I do not believe that I have to have sex with my clients to show them love and mindful gorgeous connected touch.  That is your duty as a spouse/wife/husband/girlfriend/life partner not mine. I will however hold space for them to experience their body in orgasmic blissful touch, and I will also happily “witness” them while they explore this part of themselves without judgement, just open heartedness.  You should try it sometime, it’s quite “freeing”.

REASONS WHY MY CLIENTS COME TO ME/COME FOR ME

1. My client’s come to see me because they are “lacking” in one or all of their Love Languages, and for your information the love languages are.    1.Touch  2. Words of Affirmation   3. Quality Time 4.  Acts of Service  5. Gift Giving.
   
   
2. Or they may just feel that they cannot communicate their feelings to their partner. They may feel shamed, shy, inhibited and unable to find their voice.  This is where I offer guidance, support, friendship and nurturing on both physical, spiritual and emotional levels.
   
   
3. So please do not call me a whore because I am so much more than that. I am a Sacred Intimate, An Aromatherapist, A Friend, A Healer, A Massage Therapist and a Sensualogist  as well as a bloody good listener. I am currently completing a Bachelors in Holistic Theology and Spiritual Care, as well as attending more training so I can be the best sensually conscious spiritual sacred intimate, so I am a student as well.  Oh and I am a very loving Mum with two awesome kids, who love me for the work I do. This leaves me absolutely no time to play being a whore.

FOR YOUR INFORMATION

Let me tell you something else while I am on a roll... I have some very beautiful friends that work in the Sex Industry, and I do not call them “Whores”, and they actually “fuck” their client’s, and yet that is so not what they are about either.  I attended an 8 day Tantric Training  a couple of years ago, with Sex Workers, Dominatrix’s, Tantrikas and other beautiful souls, and I was in absolute awe of the work that they did, and their personal philosophy on Love and Sex, that’s a whole other conversation/blog

Yay! more inspiration...thanks Miss Anonymous!

So my advice to you, my dear anonymous friend is look at yourself, stop judging others when you do not know them, and go find your husband/partner/boyfriend/girlfriend’s love language and give them lots of it, that way they won’t reach out for my Healing Touch because they will be so happy and satisfied with yours.  Basically if you do not “put out” he/she will eventually jump the fence, and what is worse, losing someone forever because you ignored his/her requests for love. So take your head out of ground, you are not an Ostrich.

Failing that come see me and meet me for yourself, I am sure I could change your mind very quickly about me as a person and you never know you might have an orgasm too.

Love and blessings to you

Pauline

www.nurturingmassage.co.nz